When can you start dating after separation
We tried to hang on as long as possible mostly due to the kids and ego (pride). These times are usually around kid issues and just the logistics of living separately. When I see her the whole range of questions start running through my headcould I be with this woman again? At first I was hurt and P-Oed that we would not be around each other over the holidays. I actually wouldn't consider dating or attempting another relationship. I think it would be wiser to be alone have some personal growth happen than to jump back into dating and potential relationships and start it all again.
Then I was talking to another single friend and mentioned this and it turns out she is alone as well. Your emotions may be all over the place during this time. I know its only my opinion but what is the rush for you guys I am not being sarcastic here please give me your honest answer what is the attraction to start something so soon?
Like another poster pointed out it depends on your emotional state.
I met my husband 3 days after I separated from my ex-husband.
Whether you realize it or not, you have a void in your life, & at some level of consciousness will want to fill it. I would have to agree with the above poster - though he is much more blunt (as I would not have posted this w/o his above post) than I am. A solid friendship tends to get "nearly" sidelined for the next level of friendship. Occasionally I think what it would be like to date another, but have zero plans on actually dating for a good long while. I just don't get what the rush is to be with people so quickly after a relationship ends. I can look back at the separation from my 1st wife, and honestly say there were probably 3 major factors in play for the dating decisions.
I didn't take enough time for myself to heal over the previous marriage and allow myself to start with a clean slate. I have been separated for a few months now and starting to have a few dates.