The dangers of dating
He was popular and outgoing, known for his infectious sense of humor.
He was known as a class-clown as well as being a successful athlete; he was wide receiver on the high-school football team in the fall, playing baseball and running track and field in the spring.
After all, if she didn’t say “no” directly – so the theory goes – there’s still some wiggle room to get her to give in.
To quote one of the more notorious PUA gurus1 ,”you’ve got to make the ho say no.” When you bring up this topic, you inevitably have to deal with the Not-All-Men, who are to be treated this way.
In less extreme – but no less threatening or disturbing – examples, women will tell you about the times they’ve been followed, yelled at, grabbed or even on because they didn’t want to talk to somebody. Women are socialized over and over again to be deferential to men; it’s “polite” for women to use indirect language, especially when dealing with men. Over and over again, women are socialized to not trust their instincts and ignore red flags… A friend of mine has given far too much head-space towards trying to understand her personal creeper’s side of things because she’s been taught it’s better to ignore her gut and give him the benefit of the doubt over and over again. because they’re even more afraid of disappointing him. Women are continually pressured to “give the guy a chance” and to understand that “he’s just a little awkward” or that “he’s a nice guy” and she had to be mistaken. An “I’d love to, but I’m busy that day”, for example, is a soft no.
Because she didn’t want to give him her phone number. Because she didn’t want to go home with him, to be touched, fondled, kissed or otherwise just did not want to accede to that individual’s demands of the moment. So is a “Maybe some other time.” So is pretending to misunderstand an offer, ignoring it entirely or even just what’s going on – they just don’t like the answer.
After all, I’m a firm believer in the concept of enlightened self interest.
One of the invisible benefits of being a man is that we don’t have to worry about whether the people we’re interested in are hiding a steroidal rage-monster who comes out when we turn them down.
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We make jokes-but-not-really about frat boys all being date-rape-y Broheims with popped collars and artfully disheveled baseball caps, and the “creepy” loner with the patchy beard and the long, black trench coat who poses a legitimate threat until it’s too late.
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