Once we get sober we realize that there is no one that can save us from ourselves, but only people who can add to our internal happiness.
So if we are looking to a relationship to save us from our feelings of loneliness we may be setting ourselves up for failure and a rude awakening when we realize that it hasn’t worked.
Many who get sober have rather skewed ideas of what it means to be in a relationship.
This is not to judge anyone, but it is simply the truth.
One thing that I have heard that couples in sobriety do is set up a certain amount of days every week that they can be with each other during the beginning of the relationship.
This is done in order to offset any of the obsessive hanging out that can occur during the beginning of a relationship.
It is important as well in relationships in sobriety that each person has their own recovery.
Their relationships in the past were centered either entirely on sex, or drugs, or what they could get out of the other person, and more times than there was little to no honesty present.
One of the biggest concerns of people in sobriety is what will happen if their significant others goes out.
Unfortunately, this is a possibility for all of us, but it should never be a deterrent for dating.
It's difficult finding sober friends so let's do something about it.
Relationships in sobriety can be a contentious topic of conversation.I didn’t know what my hobbies were, I didn’t know what I liked, and my sense of self was severely lacking because I had spent most of my adult life trying to be numb.