Rules dating mates ex
You're really on a need to know basis, and since you've broken up with the girl in question, it should have no bearing on your life regardless of whom she dates. The girl in question is your "ex", meaning that she's not in a relationship with you anymore, hence, is not accountable to you or any of your equally immature "mates". Sure fire way to add tension to any existing relationships is to date the ex of someone close to you. She left him and moved in with his best mate a week later.Your "good mate" is also not accountable to you, thus, is under no obligation to inform you of his relationship with your ex. There is always a risk you'll be isolated as a result and that any grudges will run very deeply. The 'best mate' also had a kid with my husband's ex girlfriends sister.Anyone who has recently tried to find an apartment, especially in a big city, knows that finding a clean, safe, decently located place that fits your price range isn’t easy.And if your family and most of your friends live elsewhere, your post-breakup options can be pretty limited. Kimberly Moffit, a psychotherapist based in Toronto, says that in her practice she sees exes who try to live together – and that it usually isn’t pretty. It can be tough to know where to draw boundaries, especially when it comes to physical contact. Is it okay if he walks in while you’re in the shower?I'm of the opinion it's a no go zone as there will always be history there and would not want to possibly lose a friend or cause dramas over something like that.I broke up with my ex around 5 months ago, one of my good mates I've known for 5 years went behind my back and started chatting to her and now they're dating.All respect I had for him and her are now gone, my mates also look down on them too.
And to make matters worse, you probably still love the jerk.If you’re both planning on dating again, it might be appropriate to enforce a no-sleepovers rule so you’re not confronted with how easy it appears for your ex to get over you. Moffit also advises discussing all of the household responsibilities again – who’s going to be doing the cleaning, whether you’re doing separate grocery shopping now – to make sure you’re on the same page and that things are equitable now that you have to step out of the roles you played in the relationship and into a more pragmatic arrangement as roommates.