Is dating harder for smart people
Alas, being single myself, I wondered to myself, “does being smart make it harder to find love? I’m not saying that if you’re in love that you are stupid. Apply that mentality to a relationship and you get situations where smarter people are quicker to duck out of a relationship at the first sign of trouble.If experience is the best teacher, then the smartest people will rely on experience to guide them.Because of this, smart people have a greater tendency to undervalue themselves and think they don’t know enough already.The general population, on the other hand, go about their lives doing the same things every day and don’t spend a whole lot of time on introspection or self-improvement.
Smart people aren’t strongly motivated by social acceptance and conformity like non-smart people are.This all combines to make dating a minefield to a highly intelligent person.When someone has a high degree of intelligence, they think about, see, and contemplate things that other people don’t notice or care about.Highly intelligent people think analytically, even when it comes to things like relationships.
Therefore, intelligent people realize that being alone is better than being with the wrong person. So, in essence, most really smart people are single because they want to be.
Smart people also tend to be averse to failure, having a tendency to see failure as a sign of weakness or that something is wrong with them. And if life is not unfolding the way they want, smart people get super self-critical and the pressure to “get it right” gets even higher.