If I join a club or take up a new hobby, I'm going to do it for me, and only me. This is a sweet thought, so I can't really be mad at anyone who says this, but the thing is, I'm not worried.
Having some sort of weird dating agenda would just suck all the fun out of it. I think we all have plenty of people in the world that we would be happy with.
I'm a proactive person; if there was some major hole in my life, I would fill it.
If I felt lonely, I would make changes to not feel lonely.
There is something so inorganic and weird about being set up with somebody. I've been in love before and I'm not going to settle for anything less than that.
I know it sometimes works for other people, but when you're already disinterested in dating in the first place, it usually leads to an awkward encounter and an awkward goodbye where you feel like a total jerk for not wanting to go out again. You know that feeling when it happens, and it's so much better than dating someone for convenience. It totally makes sense for me to buckle under societal pressure and do what everybody around me is doing at the expense of my happiness.
Everything doesn't have to happen for me in the next five years, or even the next fifteen. A lesson I've learned in the murky field of dating in my twenties: if you're not attracted to someone on the first date, you are probably not going to change your mind. For both of your sakes, just drop it before it gets messy.
I had one serious relationship in college, and broke it off when it started to look like we were going to change our plans to be near each other after graduation.