Effects of dating on children after divorce
But neither my child, nor yours, are lifelong victims because their parents didn't stay married.We have a great deal of control over the home life and the quality of the relationships we create. When you read stats, you're looking at a group as a whole.Wasn’t a marginal marriage a better choice, really, than no marriage at all? For one thing, staying in my marriage was no longer an option.Secondly, the more I began talking to researchers, clinicians, divorced parents and adult children of divorce, the more it became apparent that I could raise a happy, healthy child in a variety of scenarios—including not being married to his dad. Intuitively, we just know that children should be raised by two married parents living together.Now they know that they have two parents who love them fiercely, are devoted to them and to our family, but are not romantic partners.
These findings arrive from a variety of sources, including a 20-year study done by psychologist Constance Ahrons, published as the book .“I felt more loved than I think I would have had they stayed married,” Elizabeth told me.Parenting while divorced may require some new education, some extra attention paid to your own mental and physical state, and to your children’s.However, even in my case, with my children not being the beneficiaries of smart motherhood, we have managed to stay in touch and like each other.
Admittedly, it has been an ups and downs process, with much pain on both sides of the equation."Sure, research shows that the vast majority of kids of divorce show no lasting negative effects on their grades or social skills, life satisfaction or self-esteem." Um....it doesn't? I'm taking child psychology right now, and they say divorce is bad for their development, it's just not as bad as being in a home with constant conflict. They don't give you information about individuals, though some newer modeling methods do try to slice groups into smaller divisions.