Doctor and patient dating
When a nurse and a doctor date, it becomes everybody’s business.
Most nurses have seen the Grey’s Anatomy episode where Rose, the nurse, and Derek, the dreamy surgeon, take their relationship to the next level. Nurses rarely sneak off to on-call rooms in the middle of a shift.
Apparently, doctor/patient relationships turning personal are a lot more common than people realize. We cannot be seen together in public and cannot be as “out” about our relationship as we’d like, for obvious reasons.
I like keeping things private, but having to sneak around can also put a strain on things and makes me wonder if it’s really worth the trouble.
Find out exactly how this union will be treated professionally and consider the likely effects on both of you. I’ve started counselling because I love him so much. Focus on what you learn in counselling and stay with it. It’ll help you boost your self-confidence so that you can deal with him (or anyone else) as an equal in any future relationship, and not retreat into tears and fears. Tip of the Day A doctor-patient “romance” crosses professional lines in many jurisdictions, especially if seen, legally, as sexual abuse due to a power imbalance.
Is he willing to give up his medical career for you? But he says he has doubts that we’ll be happy in the future and we’ll keep having the same fights over and over. Tell him you’re working on this, then back off from pleading to get back together.
Maya Diamond is a Dating and Relationship Coach in Berkeley, CA.