Unfortunately, women are not viewed as trophy objects in romantic relationships alone. A woman has the responsibility to do as her family wants or she will be deemed a disgrace and disowned.It is always harder on the girl than the boy when any ‘misbehavior’ occurs. What happens when a young man announces he has gotten a girl pregnant?Jane learned she was pregnant in the final year of her university studies.Despite her mother’s pleas, her father, who ironically enough is a pastor, threw her out of the house.This is just an example of how Ugandan men do not regard women as independent-thinking human beings but as property to be used and disposed of at will. A man will not marry a woman for her fine intellect. That may be what he thinks but he and the woman in question are actually deluded.Like the proverbial African male, he will look for someone who is ‘presentable’ to his family.
Phillip is a biologist who believes that Ugandan men take being simple minded to a whole new level.“She always takes us out with her and the guys want to impress her, so they include us on the bill”. That is the solid belief that this lady upon whom they are showering their ‘love and affection’ not only owes them something, but will pay dearly for it in the future as well. Sheila Kagugube recounted an astonishing experience she had when a male friend offered her his house to live in as she was facing dire circumstances.Now what kind of man would allow himself to be taken advantage of in this manner? Peter Barigye (not real name) works at a prestigious accountancy firm. “This girlfriend of mine thinks I’m stupid, but I’m biding my time”, he assured me. After about six months, it eventually dawned on him that in her eyes, he was ‘just a friend’.“I confronted him, and can you imagine what he told me? “He said there was no way in the world he could take someone like me to meet his mother.
But he said he loved the way I ‘thought’ and could we still remain lovers in secret”?
Ugandan women are often overheard using the phrase, “I’m sick and tired of Ugandan men”. Are Ugandan men really as terrible as some women seem to think they are? Brenda Kansiime is a second year student at Kampala International University and confessed that a lot of her meals and night outs are ‘sponsored’ by guys she isn’t seeing and won’t remember after a space of five seconds.