Dating right after separation
If you find yourself resisting the idea of therapy, you might want to keep in mind that therapy doesn't mean you have a problem or that you're in crisis.
It can be a way to work toward a better life, with someone who has no agenda but YOU. But the fact is that many people feel a lot of self-rejection after a divorce.
Rapper Eminem may be known for his controversial lyrics, but he is equally known for his on-again, off-again relationship with his wife — they have been married and divorced several times to (and from) each other.
Think this is a situation that only famous people get placed in? It happens all the time to people who are teachers, professionals, and average parents.
The questions you should ask if that happens to you include: “What do you want to do?
You've signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner's, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best.
"Whatever your marriage and divorce experience has been, there will be emotions that have to do with grief," says psychotherapist Florence Falk, Ph D, MSW, author of On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone.
"You may feel remorse for what you did or didn't do, or wonder what you did wrong.
Maybe it's trying a new sport, considering a different place of worship, or going back to college.
" Look for changes you can say yes to, instead of dwelling on what's out of reach.