Dating he calls last minute
Eventually Thursday evening rolled around and I still had not heard from him.I wanted to make plans for Saturday, so I went ahead and did so with some friends.However, there are isolated incidents where it’s not necessarily an immediate cause for dismissal. It may sound specific and arbitrary; but once the clock strikes 3 p.m., the day is winding down and approaching early evening (read: too late to accept any new plans). But trust me: a man who’s genuinely interested in you would have already beaten you to it.To help you determine when it’s on and when to pull the plug, here are two of the rare scenarios in which being left hanging can still lead to legitimate possibility. If he attempts to redeem himself significantly after that mark, you now have other things to do as far as he’s concerned.When I let him know that I had made plans (I also noted that I enjoyed spending time with him and I was looking forward to going out again), he basically sent me a tersely worded email expressing his disappointment and I haven’t heard from him since.So, should I have made myself more available to him?However, the fact that you’re reading this in the first place leads me to believe you’re NOT that kind of woman and that this guy’s personality and behavioral patterns don’t mesh with yours.
If he’s worth it, he’d have either called beforehand to reschedule or afterward to explain the bizarre emergency situation in which he was unable to call, text, email, Facebook message or send smoke signals.
I considered keeping my Saturday evening open in the hope I would go out with him, but he hadn’t locked me down, so that’s why I went ahead and make plans.
Does mirroring imply keeping myself available so a guy can ask me out up until the day before the date?
And in literally all my long term relationships (like years long), we would both initiate last minute dates from time to time, both in the early stages and throughout. For example, if he had a meeting scheduled but it was cancelled at pm, he might call me and ask if I am available for dinner at pm.
If I was free, I would happily accept his invite; I wouldnt stop to think well gee if I accept his last minute invite, what will he think of me?
To me that felt inconsiderate, but to him, he might have been upset because he intended to ask me out, but I had already made plans.