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Their mom passed 15 months ago and I am dating the father 7 months.I’m willing to wait…I’m afraid that they will never be ready….I may be wasting my time.I have expressed how hurt this makes me feel to my partner. Should my partner continue to keep me from attending his family events where everyone else will be present at, just because one of his married children ‘isn’t ready yet”?Another family event is coming up soon, and I have already been told by my partner that he will not ruin his relationship with his adult married child. I understood this better a year ago as I had not met everyone yet at that time, but now one year later and I have met everyone, and they have been more than accepting of us together as a couple. I feel he is not being sensitive to my feelings regarding this. Thank you What stands out here is the emphasis on the word “ready”.
The father needs to be clear with his grieving children that the mother’s memory will always be honored and she is not being “erased.” In Marianne’s case -we don’t know how long the mother has been deceased.
“Ready” as you can see, can mean many different things. We must ask these children, “What is it that you are not ready for?
” In order for communication to flow freely and for the relationships to be healthy, we simply need to begin the conversation, “What does it mean to be ‘ready?
However, my partner’s other adult married child says that he isn’t ready to meet me, and doesn’t know when he will be ready.
I am excluded from all of my partner’s family events whenever this person is present.
Perhaps, it simply means that they have had enough change right now and aren’t ‘ready’ for more.