Been dating for a month
DON’T say anything that resembles “We need to talk.” That puts men on the defensive right away. “You know, I’ve had a great time getting to know you over the last six months, and I really enjoy being with you.
Just bring it up casually when you know he’s listening and receptive. I’m looking for a committed relationship and I just want to know where you’re at.
But I don’t want to be doing the casual dating thing six months from now—I want a committed relationship with him. My mom says don’t bring it up and just let him take things at his own pace.
My girlfriends say I need to tell him right now that I want the title, or I’m leaving.
But you’ve been acting like a girlfriend for six months, so I can understand you want to know if this is going anywhere.He clearly likes being around you, but making time for quality interaction means that weekend calls are probably few and far between.You may get lots of texts, because those can be sent easily no matter what the situation, but real human interaction is tough to spare.Second, good for you not taking the advice you’ve already received.
I mean nothing against your mother or your girlfriends, but their recommendations aren’t the same as I would make. Second, know that you are taking a risk by initiating “the talk.” A man who is relationship ready will have no problems talking about it, but a boy will run. You’ll want to be passionately detached here—say what you need to say, and then detach from any particular outcome.Would a girlfriend never get a Saturday night date?