Author of boundaries in dating
It seemed as if I could not interact with guys at all or I was at risk of compromising myself emotionally- and I wasn’t even sure what that looked like!
Even today, the term “emotional boundaries” can be vague at best and legalistic at worst.
(Saying no to premarital sex so no one takes one’s virginity, which is a treasure.) Sometimes we have bad on the inside and good on the outside. Bad inside: I need to open up to confess sin and pain so I can be forgiven and healed. He defines Himself as separate from His creation and from us. He confronts sin and allows consequences for behavior. Boundaries are anything that helps to differentiate you from someone else, and show where you begin and end. Victims of physical and sexual abuse often have poor boundaries because they were violated.
This is why sharing too much too soon can cause you to believe there is more connection in the relationship than there actually is.